Trans women are definitely not hated by ALL ciswomen. I know you know that but I wanted to say there is a world of cis women who stand beside, behind, & with all transgender women. These are strange days. I've had women argue with me that the patriarch doesn't exist and women haven't done anything remarkable to be given the respect.feminism demands. The system is deeply entrenched and wildly patriarchal. The only potential silver lining in the current madness is the majority mindset is shifting based on the extreme absurdity of the current voices. If it hadn't gotten SO unhinged, the switch to more kindness, gentleness, & inclusiveness could have taken much longer. Your voice is so important and so appreciated.
I’ve seen similar cross-cultural hatred among other groups. Where I went to college in Northern NY State there were several students who were Native American, and many Black students. I couldn’t understand why they couldn’t find common cause. I couldn't understand why they disliked each other and held such prejudice against each other.
You are awesome, I enjoy all your posts! As an older new transwoman I have noticed this dynamic. It's fascinating and mind boggling at the same time, especially given the fact that transwoman make up less then 1 percent of the population. I think our society is so entrenched in patriarchy, at every level and those who step out of that or challenge it, are deemed weird, mentally unfit or criminal. It seems the women who climb the ladder of patriarchy, must conform to its rules if they are to succeed. As for the feminist groups who attack transwomen, I think it's a tribal thing, they stick together since they can't break into the patriarchy. But then again, I could be totally off are with all of this, but at least you got me thinking about it this morning. Take care!
The misogyny runs so deep in women most of them don’t even know they’re being misogynistic. I see it everyday, defending a man who doesn’t need defending, tearing apart a mom on parenting but praising a dad, dissecting a woman’s body but not a mans, it is constant. It’s so normal that most women don’t even know they’re doing it. I see it in the women’s groups that are made to keep women safe. I’ve seen women running to tell a guy that he’s on the page. Men don’t do this. Men aren’t looking out for women like this. We’ve been pitted against each other and many women feel they need to compete for a mans attention, so every woman is a threat. I honestly feel that much of this comes from internalized hate for themselves (that they’ve been taught). I am excited to see a lot of Gen Z turning away from this type of thinking but that doesn’t make it easier for you, I know. There’s so many people who don’t think this way but the mean people are so much louder. Trans voices are so incredibly important. You’re incredibly important, thank you for sharing, you’re not alone. I’m a cis woman and I think you’re great and so do all of these people ^.
As the cis-gender mother of a trans daughter, I just want to give you a hug.
Because cis women talk to me, perhaps I can share some insights.
1. Most cis women aren't afraid of trans women. They are afraid that predators will use the access granted to trans women to invade women's spaces and assault them--using civil rights to cloak themselves. So they are ferocious in protecting the spaces.
2. Some women are uncomfortable or fearful in the presence of any adult with a penis. They usually have traumatic reasons for the way they feel. Reasoning doesn't address the fear.
I dread the Administration's effect on the lives of my trans sisters.
Then they should be fighting the REAL problem. The issue isn't trans-women, the issue is that CIS men are predators and are not held accountable for their actions. Tell your cis friends to fight what's really wrong with this world and to let trans-women live their lives in peace. Their solutions to going after the trans community simply allows for cis women to be forced into worse situations than a trans-woman using the same bathroom. I myself, as a CIS female have been questioned in women's spaces for not "fitting the norms" and it's despicable.
The truth is, predators don't care about "disguises" and the women who this that they are, are being irrational. There is no one going to put themselves through the turmoil of a transition, both mentally and physically, just to assault someone. They are simply going to do it if so inclined, especially since there is practically no penalty for it in our society. CIS white women (of which I am one) are allowing the patriarchy to continue to wreak havoc on us by allowing this rhetoric to continue without push back.
No one never thought they would transition. The concern, as I understand it, is that a predator enters , assaults, and then hides behind a bogus trans identity to manipulate the legal system.
This was a wonderful piece and it hits my heart as I face challenges sometimes daily with cis-women thanking I am stealing something from them. I just want to coexist i just want to love myself and grow and nothing will stop that but doing it together would definitely make things better. 🌹💗 thx for sharing
"You were once a principled voice for progress. Now you’re a cultural weapon in the right’s war on transgender lives." — Plus, a warning for Democratic lawmakers
Our experiences are MINIMALLY different at most… our differences are as small as from one woman to another woman. We are all dealt the blow of patriarchy. I love my trans sisters. Trans women round out womanhood nicely in my opinion. We must stand together because women are the ones who can build a civil civilization. ❤️
Trans women are definitely not hated by ALL ciswomen. I know you know that but I wanted to say there is a world of cis women who stand beside, behind, & with all transgender women. These are strange days. I've had women argue with me that the patriarch doesn't exist and women haven't done anything remarkable to be given the respect.feminism demands. The system is deeply entrenched and wildly patriarchal. The only potential silver lining in the current madness is the majority mindset is shifting based on the extreme absurdity of the current voices. If it hadn't gotten SO unhinged, the switch to more kindness, gentleness, & inclusiveness could have taken much longer. Your voice is so important and so appreciated.
Thank you for your words of encouragement, I really appreciate it
I don’t see that in my circle of friends, but, I guess that is why they are my sister friends. As an old hippy woman, I feel for you and yours.
Thank you for your support, we are all sisters in the same fight
I’ve seen similar cross-cultural hatred among other groups. Where I went to college in Northern NY State there were several students who were Native American, and many Black students. I couldn’t understand why they couldn’t find common cause. I couldn't understand why they disliked each other and held such prejudice against each other.
Fifty years later, and I still can’t
Thank you for sharing your insights, story, experience and for being a voice we need to hear. I appreciate you.
I am honored thank you
You are awesome, I enjoy all your posts! As an older new transwoman I have noticed this dynamic. It's fascinating and mind boggling at the same time, especially given the fact that transwoman make up less then 1 percent of the population. I think our society is so entrenched in patriarchy, at every level and those who step out of that or challenge it, are deemed weird, mentally unfit or criminal. It seems the women who climb the ladder of patriarchy, must conform to its rules if they are to succeed. As for the feminist groups who attack transwomen, I think it's a tribal thing, they stick together since they can't break into the patriarchy. But then again, I could be totally off are with all of this, but at least you got me thinking about it this morning. Take care!
The misogyny runs so deep in women most of them don’t even know they’re being misogynistic. I see it everyday, defending a man who doesn’t need defending, tearing apart a mom on parenting but praising a dad, dissecting a woman’s body but not a mans, it is constant. It’s so normal that most women don’t even know they’re doing it. I see it in the women’s groups that are made to keep women safe. I’ve seen women running to tell a guy that he’s on the page. Men don’t do this. Men aren’t looking out for women like this. We’ve been pitted against each other and many women feel they need to compete for a mans attention, so every woman is a threat. I honestly feel that much of this comes from internalized hate for themselves (that they’ve been taught). I am excited to see a lot of Gen Z turning away from this type of thinking but that doesn’t make it easier for you, I know. There’s so many people who don’t think this way but the mean people are so much louder. Trans voices are so incredibly important. You’re incredibly important, thank you for sharing, you’re not alone. I’m a cis woman and I think you’re great and so do all of these people ^.
As the cis-gender mother of a trans daughter, I just want to give you a hug.
Because cis women talk to me, perhaps I can share some insights.
1. Most cis women aren't afraid of trans women. They are afraid that predators will use the access granted to trans women to invade women's spaces and assault them--using civil rights to cloak themselves. So they are ferocious in protecting the spaces.
2. Some women are uncomfortable or fearful in the presence of any adult with a penis. They usually have traumatic reasons for the way they feel. Reasoning doesn't address the fear.
I dread the Administration's effect on the lives of my trans sisters.
Then they should be fighting the REAL problem. The issue isn't trans-women, the issue is that CIS men are predators and are not held accountable for their actions. Tell your cis friends to fight what's really wrong with this world and to let trans-women live their lives in peace. Their solutions to going after the trans community simply allows for cis women to be forced into worse situations than a trans-woman using the same bathroom. I myself, as a CIS female have been questioned in women's spaces for not "fitting the norms" and it's despicable.
Oh, they know what I think about it. They also want to fight predators. They are afraid there's overlap.
The truth is, predators don't care about "disguises" and the women who this that they are, are being irrational. There is no one going to put themselves through the turmoil of a transition, both mentally and physically, just to assault someone. They are simply going to do it if so inclined, especially since there is practically no penalty for it in our society. CIS white women (of which I am one) are allowing the patriarchy to continue to wreak havoc on us by allowing this rhetoric to continue without push back.
No one never thought they would transition. The concern, as I understand it, is that a predator enters , assaults, and then hides behind a bogus trans identity to manipulate the legal system.
There's no one going through a physical transition just to hide from catching rape charges. That's ridiculous!
I'll repeat: no one thought these predators would transition.
Great informative and inspirational article. Proud of you for posting this 😊
Thank you so much 😊
This was a wonderful piece and it hits my heart as I face challenges sometimes daily with cis-women thanking I am stealing something from them. I just want to coexist i just want to love myself and grow and nothing will stop that but doing it together would definitely make things better. 🌹💗 thx for sharing
✉️ 𝗗𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗕𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗠𝗮𝗵𝗲𝗿: 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗨𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗦𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗼 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿—𝗡𝗼𝘄 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗦𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗛𝗮𝘁𝗲
"You were once a principled voice for progress. Now you’re a cultural weapon in the right’s war on transgender lives." — Plus, a warning for Democratic lawmakers
https://patricemersault.substack.com/p/dear-bill-maher-you-used-to-speak?r=4d7sow
Our experiences are MINIMALLY different at most… our differences are as small as from one woman to another woman. We are all dealt the blow of patriarchy. I love my trans sisters. Trans women round out womanhood nicely in my opinion. We must stand together because women are the ones who can build a civil civilization. ❤️